Do you ever feel resentful, overwhelmed, or like people are constantly overstepping? Chances are, your boundaries need some work.
Healthy boundaries aren’t just about saying “no.” They’re about protecting your energy, boosting your confidence, and creating the space you need to thrive — both personally and professionally.
As Marshall Goldsmith says in his book title, What Got You Here Won’t Get You There, even high-performing leaders and business owners often struggle with change. It’s a common growth edge, and one worth paying attention to if you want to take your success to the next level.
Why Boundaries Matter
Boundaries come up all the time in my coaching work. If you’re naturally a caretaker or fixer, you might find it uncomfortable to set limits — but there’s no shame in it. Boundaries are part of personal growth.
The younger version of me didn’t have strong boundaries. I said “yes” too often, even when I didn’t want to. As a new coach, I took on too much responsibility for my clients’ results. Over time, I’ve learned that my role is to guide and support, not to carry the weight of someone else’s choices. That shift alone gave me more freedom, clarity, and joy in my work.
And it’s not just in business. With three teenagers at home (who are forever testing limits as they grow), I’ve had plenty of practice reinforcing my own boundaries in daily life.
3 Steps to Building Stronger Boundaries
Here are three simple ways to start setting healthier boundaries:
1 Get clear on what you need — You can’t communicate a boundary if you don’t know what matters to you.
2 Process your feelings before you speak — Check in with yourself. Sometimes journaling or a short pause can help you respond calmly instead of reacting.
3 Communicate clearly and calmly — State your boundary in a steady voice, without anger or resentment. Then, let go of their reaction. Your responsibility ends once you’ve spoken your truth.
Remember: boundaries are for YOU. Not everyone will like them, and that’s okay. What matters is that you’re honouring yourself.
A Real-Life Example
Just this week, my eldest daughter came to me feeling overwhelmed at her internship. She had been given too many projects at once. My advice? “Speak up. Let your manager know you’re at capacity, and ask which tasks are the priority.”
That’s the power of boundaries — they create clarity for everyone involved.
Your Next Step
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or frustrated with a challenging situation in your career, business, or personal life, boundaries might be part of the answer.
I’d love to help you get clarity on what’s holding you back and map your next steps forward.
Book a free Business Clarity Call with me here: https://fidelmagreene.as.me/Business-Clarity-Call
Together, we’ll uncover what’s standing in your way, so you can create more success with ease — and more calm, joy, and peace in your life.
To your success always,
Fidelma